Imagine if we walked around wearing signs that read, “Reject me,” “I fear commitment,” “I’m a victim of life,” “I don’t like myself; you shouldn’t like me ether.” Ridiculous, right? Well as it turns out, that’s exactly what happens when we project fear, insecurity, victimization, rejection, insignificance, and shame onto other people through non-verbal and verbal communication. If we’re victims, we often attract rescuers. If we’re insecure, we often attract those who reject. And if we’re passive, we often lay a welcome mat for controllers. So how do you look for love in all the...right places? Find out this week as I’m joined once again by my good friends, Chris & Megan Rea.

There is a huge difference between being victimized and being a victim. Victims of life bask in self-pity and place their identity in their deficiency. The same goes for you and me. We can go through life with a chip on our shoulder about who screwed us over, live in self-pity, and find sufficiency in deficiency, or with reckless abandon, refuse to be victims of our circumstances. If you’re sick and tired of living life as a victim, welcome to my conversation with my good friends, Chris & Megan Rea from No Small Life. STEPS TO HEALING We can go through life with a chip on our shoulder about who screwed us over, live in self-pity, and find sufficiency in deficiency, or with reckless abandon, refuse to be victims of our circumstances. If you’re sick and tired of living life as a victim and are ready to live life on purpose, here’s a breakdown of Bartimaeus’ breakthrough: Really desire breakthrough. As I mentioned earlier, being taken care of is living on easy street, but cripples your ability to rise above your circumstances and live a life of purpose and fulfilled potential. Bartimaeus was desperate when he cried, “Son of David, have pity and mercy on me now!” Burn the victim card. Mark ‪10:50 is one of my favorite verses in the Bible: “And throwing off his outer garment, he leaped up and came to Jesus.” What’s your “outer garment”? Self-pity? Regret? Bitterness about your past? Unresolved disappointment? Whatever it is, deal with it then throw it off. Take responsibility for life. Why would Jesus ask a blind man what he wanted? Wouldn’t that be obvious? I believe Jesus’ question was rhetorical. He knew Bartimaeus needed healing but wanted to make sure Bartimaeus wanted to be healed in order to live a life of purpose instead of a life on the curb. Turn your pity into purpose. Once you dump the pity, you have no choice but to live each day on purpose. In Mark ‪10:52, Bartimaeus did just that: “And at once he received his sight and accompanied Jesus on the road.” The road to your purpose is waiting for your tread. In this episode, you'll discover... There is a huge difference between being victimized and being a victim. Victims of life bask in self-pity and place their identity in their deficiency. Too often, we find sufficiency in our deficiency. Your life will go in the direction of your strongest thoughts.